Violence Kills Everything

The violence in the couple's life has many faces, from the looks of disapproval to the blows ...

Any violent action is usually preceded by innuendo, anger, jealousy or disqualification, which may or may not end in physical violence, hitting, slapping, pushing ...

The circle of violence in the lives of many couples, it just seems that is not recognized. Women and men who are forced to act on what they are not actually suffer from some form of violence or aggression. That is, when one is forced to talk differently, dress differently, think differently, do things different from what it is, is a way to violate the relationship and the couple well.

Violence has many faces, almost everyone associated with the shock and trancazos. But there is a form of it which is not recognized as the silence, indifference, refusing to have sex, lies, indifference, neglect. The irascible anger against the slightest provocation ...

Many women in general, and some men in particular, suffer in the day to day in their daily lives ... and simply, his soul faints because it manages to give it a name, which translates into violence ...

Violence is rigor, laying, maintaining a provocative or imperative against the other ... .. that our great love .... How I can think of that to which I love so much full of conflicts, disappointments and bruises ... ...

Actually the problem is not bruised, and broken physically, but their representation in the emotions, the soul, the wounds are not only experienced. The wounds become a torture that is woven into the very depths of our psyche, our feelings and our sense of life ...

Both people who suffer violence as those who suffer the unspeakable pain run ... That sometimes can only tolerate anesthesia ... this lethargy that sometimes can only be calmed by alcohol, tranquilizers, and some more, denial ... I mean, nothing happens and we behave as if nothing happened.

The reality is that still happening situations, conflicts and even at times we are not facing the facts that compel us to recognize ... we react out of our lethargy or ... of our anesthesia, but some or some at least are able to afford their painful condition ...

Violence is taboo in our society, we prefer not recognize it, not talk about it ... consider it a gender situation ... women under the supremacy of men ... but we did see a bit more ... Violence leaves havoc in men, women children and the elderly ....

That is, the violence always leaves traces in our personal experience no matter what age, social status or condition are living ... always leave marks, resulting in resentment, anger, resentment, sadness ... But above all, leave footprints in self-concept, self-esteem and value of people.

Violence for both the sufferer and for those who run it involves suffering, guilt, sadness ... but the emotional pain that words fail to express .... The language falls short in these situations ... .. probably because the pain is very great ... ...

Violence involving terror, fear, rage, anger, outbursts, anger, rudeness, bluntness, brutality, in psychological terms is to destroy the power of another person, by force to intimidate its integrity, no matter whether the media are psychological or physical the consequences are in the SER, the self-esteem, personal value.

But how: One, or that I love so much, I abused, insulted me, hit me physically and emotionally, I was assaulted and emotionally unavailable to me?

Well, then the next question is:

How do I understand love, or relationship partner?

The violence and shock have many faces and masks. The reality is that it is important to turn to rethink ourselves ... And, yes the one with which we live makes us unhappy, or happy? Yes most of the time living on welfare or discomfort with your partner?

The relationship is an ingredient to be better in our lives and sharing, and be better people every day. But if not, there are several questions and approaches to solve. Each person has their own answers, all equally valid. There is the complexity of human life, possible and probable answer ... It's up to everyone, and everyone, of every member of the couple and the relationship itself. Just as in every circumstance and above all, each biography is unique and special ... but there always comes a moment of reflection in the life of every human being, and here I open a series of questions that each person, couple or not, requires resolve in his own individuality.

My partner assaulted me, control me or helps me be a better person?

I my partner assaults, the control, or let him be a better person?

What do I want in my life regardless of the person I chose as a couple?

Abuse is the keynote of my partner?

I am violent, or my partner is violent with me?

I'm really willing to live a life like this, where the essence of me is hurt, angry, resentful and full of pain?

Each person in the individual can answer these questions and reflect on their life together. But the reality is that violence kills everything ... love, self-esteem ... faith in life ... the purpose of it. The painful reality in silence . The truth is that if you are a reality of this nature. It is best to open it and share it to suffer in silence ... at least it is encouraging ...

Does not hit out of confusion because that person we love is precisely that which hurts us most ... Paradoxically ... hurt more, whom we love most ... But ... we grow more, as they really accept whom we love most ...

Sometimes talking to others what happens to us gives us light and understanding ... If you feel trapped in these couple games ... go to a specialist psychotherapy is always very helpful ....

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